Pastor John Gray issues an apology to his wife, Aventer Gray, and his church congregation after videos sent to an alleged side chick were exposed. He claims he’s in therapy and promises to change. Hmph. Read more inside….
When it comes to adultery, it’s more than clear Pastor John Gray struggles, hard.
Last year, the Relentless Church pastor was accused of cheating on his wife, Aventer Gray. And here we are a year later with the same accusations, except this time, the alleged side chick provided video footage – which included footage of his son - to prove the megachurch pastor has been creeping behind his wife’s back in these streets. Not only that, he allegedly was sending the woman money and would take her on trips. Oh, and their Facetime/Marco Polo calls...he included his very young son in those. His son even witnessed Pastor Gray roasting his wife and her shortcomings to his sidepiece.
Chile, you hate to see it.
Now, Pastor Gray is apologizing…again.
The last time he spoke before his church following cheating rumors, with his wife Aventer was right by his side, preaching about his “rest In Brokenness until he wakes up and understands who he is.” We weren’t surprised at her defending her husband since months before that Pastor Gray opened up about how his wife "birthed" him and kept him "covered" as he grew into a man.
For this public apology, Pastor Gray sat alone on a darkened stage to issue an apology to his wife and his Relentless Church congregation.
“I just want to take a moment to say to you Relentless Church, to the body of Christ, to those who have looked to me as an example of leadership and pastoral oversight, I want to take this moment to tell you I’m sorry,” Pastor John Gray said during his lengthy sermon last Sunday. “I’m sorry for the areas of my life that I left unattended, that I was apathetic about. The areas where I have treated the calling of God, the grace of God and the hand of God casually in my life. For every area of behavior that has dishonored the holiness of God, I want to tell you I’m sorry."
The former OWN TV reality star said he’s taking responsibility for his actions and noted a number of reasons why he made some “bad decisions.”
”Church is not a game. Pastors are held to the highest of standards. Moral integrity. Character when no one is looking. Fidelity and faithfulness in marriage. And for me, not submitting to process, not staying accountable, and not utilizing the voices available to teach me the tools, have caused me to make bad decisions.”
”And I want to make it very clear again that no one carries that but me.”
The megachurch pastor apologized to his wife publicly for humiliating her and the pain he has caused her.
"As I’ve said to my wife, I say to her now in the moment, Aventer I am sorry for the pain that I have caused you. And my prayer is that the life I live from this moment will be one worthy of the love that you have extended and that our family receives from. I am grateful for you, for our children and I pray that God would restore the joy that we had in the days when we would drive around the city dreaming. You know more than everyone else the areas of pain that I’ve carried for years. The horrific, self-fulfilling prophesies. That you told me stop confessing those things. But I believe that this moment had to come so that God could make me the man that I need to be. But I’m sorry for that pain that I’ve caused. You don’t deserve it. You’re an amazing woman of God and I love you. And I will face me so that the man that comes out of this moment will be able to honor you in a way that I never have before.”
Pastor Gray - who pastored for several years at Joel Osteen's Lakewood Church in Houston - revealed he has been undergoing extensive therapy for a while, both with his wife and individually. He said he’s not sure how long his therapy process will take and told his congregation they may not see him for a few weeks. With that, he said he’s working on becoming a better man.
“But I want to make it very clear, no matter where I’ve been or the things that I’ve done, I am not that person. Because none of us are our worst thing or our best thing.
”I found myself running from accountability, running from the safety of wise counsel, making decisions from my anger, my rage, my pain and my emotion. Because of that I have put everything that God has ever entrusted to me in harm’s way. A consistent pattern rooted in a lack of identity and a shame that I can’t shake. But God in his mercy has given me this chance to be an example to my son and my daughter and to the body of Christ.”
Towards the end of his sermon, he concluded by telling people to still "support the church," likely meaning money wise.
You can listen to Pastor Gray's full apology/sermon below:
Last week, Pastor Gray was put on blast by his side chick, Mary. The woman shared several videos he sent her where he bashed his wife for not cooking, asked her if she wanted to take a trip to Cabo, and how he’s going to cook for her.
John and Aventer have been married for about 9 years and share two children – a son named John Gray IV and a daughter named Theory Gray. The couple made their home in South Carolina after they were appointed lead pastors of Relentless Church in Greenville, South Carolina, in May 2018.
The couple went through several ups and downs last year. Pastor Gray gifted Aventer a $200,000 Lamborghini for their 8th wedding anniversary before confessing to his congregation that he cheated on his wife. Folks dragged Pastor Gray for filth on social media for it.
To clear up rumors surrounding the cheating scandal last year, he went on “The Real” and said he did NOT cheat on his wife. However, he did participate in an “emotional affair,” which he said is not the same as actually cheating. He also said his wife's "coat" she covers him with wasn't big enough to cover up his childhood trauma that led him and his ego to cheat. Oh? The anonymous woman begged to differ and offered up receipts. Oop.
Chile, at this point - just let the man cheat in peace. Because folks are going to keep buying the B.S. We're TIREDT. In the meantime, he should step away and maybe separate while he gets himself together and continues HIS counseling, and stop dragging other people and their wallets through the mud incessantly while he does so.
Photo: Aventer's IG
source: theybf
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